Pledging against the mommy-wars
I am totally and utterly addicted to the Internet. I will swear up and down and four ways to Sunday that it’s the reason that I didn’t get lost in depression after Ariana died, and it’s the reason I got through my almost impossible to believe pregnancy with Oliver. I have connected with literally hundreds of families who have faced Hydrops, quite a few others who have dealt with Neonatal Hemochromatosis. If I didn’t have the Internet my son would not be here. The Internet let me connect with the doctor who pioneered the treatment that saved his life. It gave me the information and resources to walk into the appointment when I was 8 weeks pregnant and tell them what the treatment protocol was, and how I would like it to happen. Like it or not, the Internet and the networks created through it have saved my life, and saved my family.
I love the Internet. But some days, I really don’t like it.
I wrote this post in April, but then In September I wrote this post, because I was just done. DONE with the bitchy, the in-fighting the constant need to validate myself and my choices to other people who knew only what they read on a screen about myself and my family. Now, I share a lot online, I know that. But there are always things you don’t know about me, there are always circumstances and situations you won’t hear about. I’m entitled to my choices, just as you are entitled to yours.
The fighting, the waring, the bitching, the anger, the hurt. They all have to stop. If you are on the Internet to attack other women and their choices, then this is not the place for you. If parading your way as the only way, the best way, the premium, the target that we, the lay, uninformed, the ignorant should be aspiring to is the entire reason you are reading and commenting on these sorts of posts, then you should probably turn off your computer and get out more. The ‘mommy-wars’ aren’t a new concept. For years women have been fighting against each other in all things to do with parenting. But the Internet has bought them into a whole new dimension. Which is why I’m Taking The Pledge.
Stop It. Stop it all, and stop it now.